The 80/20 Marriage Rule™
Strengthen What Works. Manage What Doesn’t. Fall Back in Love—For Real.
Prepare for Marriage with Clarity, Confidence & Purpose — The Self-Paced Course for Mature Adults Who Want to Build a Lasting Partnership Before Saying “I Do.”
Stop trying to fix everything. Start amplifying what already works.
This self-paced online course helps couples shift from criticism to appreciation, from conflict to
connection, and from burnout to a marriage that actually feels good again.
Why the 80/20 Approach Changes Everything
Most couples spend 80% of their energy on the 20% that’s wrong—and slowly drain the love out of their relationship. The 80/20 Marriage Rule flips the script:
Amplify the 80% (your strengths, shared values, the things that already work).
Manage the 20% (differences, stressors, conflict triggers) with calm systems that actually stick.
Build daily habits that make love easier, not heavier.
You don’t need a perfect marriage—just a better focus.
What You’ll Walk Away With
A personalized 80/20 Action Plan you both agree on (and can actually follow).
Communication moves that lower defensiveness and raise understanding.
A conflict framework that repairs faster, with fewer repeat arguments.
Daily micro-habits that rebuild trust, intimacy, and appreciation.
Resilience tools for stress, parenting, finances, and life change.
Inside the Course
(15 Lessons + Tools)
Introduction: The Power of the 80/20 Marriage Rule
The Foundation — What is the 80/20 Marriage Rule?
Identifying the 80% — The Strengths in Your Marriage
Strengthening the 80% — Nurturing What Works
Identifying the 20% — Recognizing the Challenges
Managing the 20% — Turning Challenges into Growth
Conflict Resolution Framework — Navigating Disagreements with Love
Your Personalized 80/20 Marriage Action Plan
Real-Life Applications — Stories of Transformation
Maintaining Balance & Continuous Improvement
Conclusion: Committing to an 80/20 Mindset
Bonus: The Biblical Reality of the 80/20 Rule (optional, welcoming to all)
Downloadable & Tools:
80/20 Strengths & Challenges Map
Appreciation Builder (7-day reset)
“Pause, Don’t Pounce” Conflict Card
10-Minute Daily Connection Ritual
One-Page 80/20 Action Plan Template
Is This Course For Us?
You want less fighting, more understanding.
You’re tired of nitpicking and want to rebuild appreciation.
You love each other—but feel stuck in repeat arguments.
You want practical, fast wins that fit real life.
You’re engaged, newlywed, or years in—and ready to feel close again.
What Couples Are Saying
“We stopped obsessing over what’s wrong and doubled down on what’s right. The result? Less conflict—more connection.”
“The conflict framework alone was worth the price. We now repair in minutes, not days.”
“The 80/20 plan gave us shared language and clear steps. We’re a team again.”
Course Format & Access
Self-paced video lessons + printable workbooks
Bite-sized exercises you can do in 10–15 minutes
Lifetime access + updates
Optional faith-aligned bonus (inclusive, not required)
Limited-Time Bonuses:
30-Minute Relationship Strategy Call (first 100 enrollees)
Love Habits Starter Kit (templates + scripts)
Conflict-to-Connection Mini Pack
Frequently Asked Questions
How fast will we see results?
Many couples notice a shift in 7–14 days—less tension, more appreciation—when they use the daily tools.
We’ve tried counseling—how is this different?
This is skill-based, action-driven, and gives you a clear plan to follow together every week.
Is it faith-based?
Core content is universal. There’s an optional biblical lens module you can use if you wish.
What if my spouse won’t join?
Start solo. Many partners join after they see your changes and the calmer climate.
Choose Appreciation Over Criticism. Choose 80/20.
Every day you have a choice: magnify flaws—or multiply love.
Make today the turning point.