“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” Albert Einstein

There are no shortcuts to greater results in your life including your relationship. To get more out of life, you have to do more.

You have to have skills that employers want. The job that you want likely requires skills that you just don’t have, Yet.
In order to move you up into that position – or to find that kind of position in another organization – you have to have the skills that the job requires. There’s no shortcut around that. You need to do the work. The catch is that there isn’t some magic spell that will move you from where you’re at to where you need to be to get that job. It’s up to you if you really want that new position or not.
In other words, you have to devote your own time and energy to develop those skills. To get there, you flat out have to devote some spare time and energy to building new skills.

In the same vein, building a great stable, strong and satisfying marriage, require new skills as well. This is because marriage is a skill-based institution. It is governed by a set of rules and principles.

However, many go into marriage without any proper marital skillsets but wishful thinking and believing that it will just work out or they force their spouse to change after marriage to the model they have in their head.

Well, you can goggle and do a world search on the state of many marriages today. The result from your search might not be totally heartwarming. Sometimes. it could be scary

Studies reveal that premarital counselling or coaching is an effective tool to use as you begin your married life. Researchers have discovered that it is a helpful way to improve your communication and conflict management skills while increasing your overall relationship quality and satisfaction. You will learn more about each other and have proper foundational knowledge about each other. This will help you to decide whether you are ready to spend the rest of your life with this other person.